and why that is perfectly ok. If this is your first pregnancy you are most probably as lost as me. You are stressing over what things you need to buy for your newborn and worried that you won’t make the full list. I am here to tell you a secret: you won’t make it… and you don’t need to.
The reason why you are stressing over your NEWBORN LIST
‘Nesting’ is a word you have surely heard and read a lot about. Pregnant women are obsessed with nesting. But nesting is a natural animal instinct. Almost all species prepare their homes to welcome their offspring. If you have seen any documentary at all you know what I am talking about.
Birds collect twigs and leaves to build their nests. We humans don’t need to go into the wild to prepare our baby’s nest. We shop. And boy, do we love to shop. So much that sometimes it gets out of hand.
If you do a little search in Youtube you will find thousands of videos titled ‘Newborn Must Haves‘ or ‘Newborn Essentials’. While these videos are amusing to watch, you will soon find a pattern in them – they are not realistic.
Some people seem to be confused by the meaning of ‘must have’. A cute little clothes hanger is NOT a must have. Sure, it looks lovely in your wardrobe and it can be practical. But is it essential to bring up your baby? Certainly not.
So you are new in this and you are searching for information and it’s all very confusing. Cause all those lists are different. You want to find that ULTIMATE list that will be satisfying and won’t make you doubt at all.
Unfortunately, that list might not exist. And that’s ok!
Why you don’t need to complete the Must Have List
The reason why you don’t need to complete that list is that real essentials are very basic. Most of the stuff in those lists are unecessary and expensive.
You don’t need to get those flashy, hipster items that your newborn might use once (and not enjoy!) because they grow so fast.
Also, you will get so many stuff from relatives and friends that you will find yourself with more things that you actually wanted.
Reusing some items will be handy too. Have some friends or family members who had a baby not long ago and are willing to lend you some stuff? You might want to try it and then buy it if you’re convinced of its purpose.
We worry because we think we need to have it all figured it out before the baby arrives. Some people buy stuff for when the baby is going to be a year old before the baby is born! You won’t use most of the stuff until a few months later so don’t freak out if you don’t have it all ready by the time the newborn arrives.
There. Is. Time. Breathe.
So what is a real Must Have List?
Think about your grandparents. Did they need a MamaRoo? Ok. You are going to tell me that those were other times. I am just trying to make a point about what is a ‘must have’ and what is a ‘nice to have’.
A ‘must have’ is something that your baby can’t live without. Or that would make life very hard. If we take the hardcore route, a baby really just needs a mom that can feed him (or a dad with a bottle). We can argue that even cribs are not necessary since the baby could sleep in bed with you (even though this is quite dangerous and is a controversial topic for another day).
But we don’t need to get hardcore. A Must Have list should be concise and smart. Honestly, I really like the one in this site. It’s practical, sensible and useful. All you really need.
The List that will work best for you and your newborn
You don’t need to agree with that list and that is fine. Just take a short list like that one and customize it. Make it personal. Make it useful to you. You might be thinking about breastfeeding and then you don’t necessarily need a lot of bottle feeding stuff. Or you might want to try reusable diapers.
It’s your list and it will be perfect for you. It will work because you can always add more things on the go, because you will get more stuff from presents, and also because your baby really, really needs so little.
Once you get your list of truly essentials you might find yourself ready to enjoy your pregnancy. At the end, you’re not going to care about that MamaRoo. You are going to enjoy watching your baby clutching your finger in his little hand.
Can you make a list that works for you with 20 items or less? Share with the rest in the comments below 🙂
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