At some point during their pregnancies, new mums tend to ask themselves, ‘Am I going to be a good mum?’. This can be a source of stress for many women, as they start a new stage of their lives that is unknown to them. Here you will find out if you are going to be a good mum, so you can stop stressing about it 🙂
A bit of context
Before I answer the big question, let me tell you a little story.
Back when I was a university student, I had a class that scared the hell out of me. The first day, the teacher introduced herself and told us,
“This is a very challenging class and less than half of the students pass every year”.
I was paralysed. I have always been a nerdy girl and loved to study but this class was tough and I already started to panic on my first day… So when the class ended, and while my colleagues were packing their stuff, I went to the teacher’s desk and told her I was worried about not being able to pass the class and asked for advice on how to improve my chances. Maybe there was a book I could read. Or I could research some articles in the library. Anything. She looked at me with a funny face and told me,
“It’s funny, it’s always the students that are most scared of failing that get the highest grades in my class”.
Needless to say, I aced the exam.
She was right and that has turned out to be a very valuable lesson for me throughout the years.
What makes a ‘bad mum’:
Sometimes we tend to believe that being a good parent means being perfect in each domain:
You need to be the best cook. And you should have the cleanest house. Plus you must be able to organise all your meals, activities and classes in your big, fat planner. Your home needs to have the cutest furniture and be equipped with the latest gadgets for babies. And all of that you must do wearing beautiful clothes and stylish-instagrammable make-up.
What makes a good mum is that she cares.
Bad mums exist. But they are not the women who have messy homes (read this article for more on messy mums), or who order take out every now and then when they are exhausted. They are the ones who don’t care about their children. Unfortunately, some mums like that do exist.
So, are you going to be a good mum?
Well, first of all, you are reading this. And that means you care. You are worried, because you wanna be a good mum.
Caring is what is going to make you a good mum.
Because you don’t need all the Encyclopedia knowledge about babies. When you are going to have a doubt, you are going to search for the answer. And you are going to listen to the advice of professionals. If you feel like you are going to need help, you will ask for it. All that because you care.
That’s what’s gonna make you a good mum.
It is natural to worry, but don’t stress. That’s counterproductive. You can allow yourself to worry from time to time, as a sign that you care.
However, you need to remember always that you will be a good mum and there’s no doubt about it. Bonus tip: use that reminder as a positive affirmation!
In which ways do you worry about being a mum? Those are signs of caring. Share with us below in the comment box 🙂