Bonding with your baby, even when it’s still ‘baking in the oven’, is a great way to de-stress and feel more positive. I do it every day and it always makes a smile appear in my face and my mood is automatically improved. Why not try it out?
Some moms do not start talking to their babies in the womb until week 20 or so, because their sense of hearing is still developing for some time. That is totally fine, if you want to wait.
Well, I didn’t wait that long.
I was so eager to bond with my baby that I started around week 15, since I already had a noticeable bump. And I love to lay on my side and massage my belly whilst talking to the baby.
Why is bonding beneficial for you and your baby
We do not know with certainty when they start to hear and recognize sounds, but that doesn’t really matter. Bonding goes beyond that.
It is proven that babies recognize the voice of their mother and relatives and they even respond to them with kicks when they’re big enough. Talking and singing to the baby is a way to facilitate that association.
However, bonding time has enormous benefits for the mom too. When you spend time relaxing and focusing on the baby, you de-stress and become happier instantly.
It is a sort of “Me-time”, only that you spend it with your baby. It is very intimate and very powerful.
The baby will feel you’re more relaxed because your body is getting peaceful and calming signs coming from your brain, and he will also start feeling more relaxed too.
You might also find that while spending some bonding time you experience those “flutterings” in your womb earlier in the pregnancy, because you are not distracted by daily life situations. You are serene and the feelings and sensations get amplified.
Ways to bond with your baby bump
There are dozens of ways to bond with your little one, but here are some ideas:
- Sing to them (if you are a good singer, otherwise maybe you don’t wanna traumatize them :P)
- Talk to them – bonus tip: involve the father too! More on benefits of talking to your bump here
- Read aloud to them. It can be anything, but I love to read some nice children’s books
- Listen to music. I created a playlist with nice, soothing songs (think Elvis, Sinatra, etc.) and I lay down and listen to it with eyes closed.
- Massage your belly. Do it tenderly. You can actually use that time to oil/cream your skin (bonding & fighting stretch marks, win-win situation!)
They are so easy to do, so why not try them all out?
Find half an hour to lay down and relax and do two or three of the bonding activities mentioned above. Can you think of other ways to bond with your baby bump? Share in the comments below!